Are they a narcissist or just self-confident? How to tell the difference

Some of us love certainty. We plan, a little too much as some say. And we love templates for what to do. If someone could point out “If X, do Y; if A, do B”, we’d be elated. 

We often think of empathy as an amazing thing. Most of us believe that empathy is the solution to cruelty and aggression, and generally leads to better outcomes from sales to productivity to customer relationships. Hence, empathy training is recommended for anyone from prisoners to doctors to teachers. 

I used to have the most lax attitude towards exercise, supplements and sunblock that would freak even the most lackadaisical amongst my friends. Not only was I unable to see their current utility in my life, I also couldn’t envision myself as ever being in need of them.

There is biohacking, where we experiment with our body via fasting and nutrition to create major transformations. Then there is what I call personality hacking, where we experiment with our lifestyles in a way adapted to our personalities, so we function more optimally.

Bending over backwards to please someone isn’t just about being nice or considerate. It can be rooted in trauma. 

Many of us want to have a good life, but when we put the concept of “good” under the proverbial microscope, we all mean different things.

I enjoy dining out and exploring new places, and I’m fortunate enough to have a significant number of meaningful friendships with people whom I can call up in the middle of the night, who will have my back if push ever comes to shove.

I remember being a kid and thinking the adults had it all together. I thought it’d be a magical biological switch, and that one day, my life would be put together.