Have you ever thought about what your little blocks are in life? What is it that prevents you from being everything that you could and should be? What is it that creates a less-than-optimal reaction in you? Do you recognise your triggers?
If you’ve spent any time looking at your blind spots, you may have begun to build up some awareness of what your behaviour looks like when you are triggered. Chances are, that behaviour is a big part of what’s preventing you from feeling amazing more often and really accomplishing everything you’ve set out to do. It is that behaviour that leads us down a path of resistance and “untruth”.
So, what can you do about shifting this behaviour, especially when it has become so ingrained in you that you barely notice it happening? Here are a few ways you can begin to build awareness and shift blocks (blind spots) in your life:
- Start by building awareness: Reflect on your day and note down what went well, what you felt didn’t go as well and what you’d like to change. Consider your interactions with others and reactions to events or conversations. Were there any that could have gone better?
- Find out what triggers you. Ask others you interact with frequently if there’s anything in particular they notice that you get easily triggered by. Your closest relationships probably see quite clearly what presses your buttons. Be open and willing to hear what they have to say. You might not like what they have to say but if you’re prepared to listen, it can open up a world of possibilities. Try to leave defensiveness at the door.
- Determine what your preferred reaction would be. Think about how you could get a better outcome if you changed your behaviour. What could be possible if you looked at things differently?
- Know why. This one is important. Why do you want to change that reaction? Are you hoping to become more approachable? Kinder? Calmer? And, if you do become those things, then what could be possible for you?
- Have a process. When you are triggered by something you can now begin to catch yourself. This is where you need a physical process for changing your behaviour. It might look like taking a big deep breath, smiling, and then bringing in the new behaviour. Perhaps it is negative thinking you are trying to change or shift. If this is the case, you may actually want to take the breath and then do something physical and energising, like 10 quick star jumps. The physical action does two things: a) creates a new behaviour through new neural pathways in your brain and b) releases endorphins into your brain which naturally brings about more positive thinking.
Changing behaviour takes time and commitment. However, having a process and a grounded reasoning for what you want to change allows you to continuously reprogram your mind and your body to react in a way that better supports you.
Try it with something small first. Perhaps start with just changing your behaviour when you come home at night to be a more positive experience, then try it with something a little more challenging like changing a thought pattern. Eventually, the new behaviour will become second nature and you’ll forget you ever responded the way you did previously.
Prepare to be impressed with yourself.