How to know when you’ve made it

Visioning work is something we do all the time. We do it when we imagine ourselves in the next job, or with our next partner, or perhaps in a new country. We even do it when we think about what our next day might look like. With clients, we often start with the question “What do you want to be different next year?”

Visioning is a crucial step in defining where you want to go and then building the path to get there. In fact, sometimes it is the most important. As soon as we create a vision for where we want to be, we begin to create that reality.  We set the wheels in motion to build our dreams, however big or small.

There is an interesting twist to all this creating we do however. I am noticing more and more that we are not always aware of exactly what we are visioning. Sound crazy? I mean, how could we not know what we are asking for or what we are moving towards when we are the ones who think it?

Just consider what you are asking for when you say things like:

  • “I would like to have more time to do what I want to do”
  • “I would like to focus more on one person or project”
  • “I want to get to a point where I am not really needed in the business”
  • “I’d like my new partner / partners to see my value”

Of course, these are all very reasonable requests. They do however, leave some ambiguity about exactly how that will manifest. Having more time to do what you want to do may mean letting go of certain areas of your life, maybe areas you didn’t think you wanted to let go of. More focus on a particular person or area, likewise, what will you have to give up to focus on that. Getting to a point where the business no longer needs you usually means you have no job.

Several times in the last few weeks I have listened to and watched both clients and friends, and ultimately of course, myself, realise that they are exactly where they asked to be. When I’ve discussed them the question of why they are feeling confused or frustrated, I ask them to go back to what they had asked for several months (or in one case, years) ago. In each case, they had stated clearly what they wanted, but not expected it to show up in the way it had.

Take the time to review what you want to create and how you ask for it. Then, take some time to consider what the likely consequences (good or bad) might be if that were to manifest. We are powerful at creating what we want. Sometimes, we are just not great at seeing that we have created it or acknowledging when we get it.