Do you “have to” or do you “get to”?

Chances are if you are like most people you wake up in the morning and at some stage before you actually set off for work you are already thinking about your to-do list of the day.

Next time you do – take a note of the language you are using in your head. Are you saying to yourself I have to do A then I have to do B and then I have to do C? Or are you saying with some excitement I get to do A then I get to do B and then I get to do C.

This subtle difference is often the difference between people who are feeling overwhelmed due to a lack of control which is what thinking I have to do X can result in.

People who are better at handling stress think of everything they need to get done in a day as positive. They feel very lucky to be in the position they are in and are lucky that they get to do so many things.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or just unhappy in your current situation then change it. Even just changing your language from I have to, to I get to can make you feel more at ease.

And once you realise you are in control – things often feel a lot easier.


If you’d like to find out more, join the conversation in our next open workshop.